This wedding was absolutely one of the highlights of 2018 for me. From the time I arrived in the small Ontario town of Madoc, I was immediately taken care of by Carly, Jonathan and their families. I got to stay in an awesome little Bed + Breakkie (no, not an AirBnB – the OG BnB, baby), I was fed some amazing food and I was pelted with hugs from humans and doggos, alike. This weekend wedding was whimsical, full of adoration and was the perfect vision of family and friends coming together to make big things happen! These are the weddings that I live for. I’m so excited to be sharing this beautifully curated, homemade wedding with you.
I asked Carly and Jonathan a few things about their wedding weekend after the dust settled and here’s what they had to say:
How Did You Two Meet?
Jonathan and I actually met in Grade 9. We went to high school together and apparently, according to Jonathan, made out on the bleachers at a basketball game once. Flash forward a decade, after leaving for school, travelling the world, living in different cities, and pursuing totally different career paths we both happened to find ourselves back home. We both saw our ‘stint’ at home as a launching pad. What was intended to be an opportunity to re-calibrate before taking off again, has now evolved into planting roots here. Thanks to Tinder, the proximity-based technological matchmaker, we were finally reunited. I say finally because there is no doubt in my mind that we were meant to end up together; there are too many missed connections over the past decade to deny that our paths were meant to cross. From literally living down the street from each other in Toronto to having the same ‘meeting place’ with friends in the city (The Whale in the financial district) we rode the same streetcars, walked the same streets and frequented the same bars. Fate must’ve known it wasn’t the right time for our forever to start.
We had been house and dog sitting for family friends, living a very luxurious life, and on the way home for the first time in over a month we were laughing about how we would one day look back on our stereotypical shitty little ‘first apartment’ and smile one day… after our last trip hauling our bags up the 25 steps, he came around the corner with a goofy smile and told me he loved me, got down on one knee and asked if I would marry him. It’s a simple but real story, and I think it really reflects who we are as people; it’s just so us.
When did you realize that you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together?
Jonathan: Our first date, sitting in my car, in the parking lot, not wanting the night to end. The moment I looked into her eyes, I wasn’t scared anymore. My heart knew I loved her then.
Carly: Our relationship has been intoxicating from day one. My head spins when he is around and my skin tingles when he touches me. I have no control over my behaviour or emotions. I am truly captivated by him. I knew very early on, the course of my life had changed forever; whether we stayed together or not, I had evolved into a different person, a better person, because of Jonathan’s presence in my life. That doesn’t mean that our relationship has been all sunshine and roses, we have struggled through darkness, but when the time came to choose me over him, I couldn’t do it. I knew I loved him more than my own existence. From that day on we’ve been steadily building a beautiful life.
What was your favourite part of your wedding day?
Jonathan: Watching Carly walk towards me on the grass and seeing her bare feet peak out from under her dress.
Carly: There was one moment later in the evening, on my way down to the dance floor when I was stopped dead in my tracks by this wave of love and appreciation; it was as though I had walked into a wall. In front of me was this most magical sight, my favourite people in the entire world were all together, dancing silly under the stars. The glow of Edison bulbs lit up the happiness on each of their faces and thought to myself, “yup, these are my ride or dies. These are my people.” That was pretty surreal for me.
Do you have any advice for couples planning their weddings right now?
Jonathan: Hire a wedding planner. (deadpan stare) *he hated seeing me so stressed, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.*
Carly: Keep it casual, keep it real. Don’t lose yourselves in the planning process. There are so many logistics, and Pinterest pages and social pressures to plan a specific, cookie-cutter day. I say, “screw that!” Instead, defy convention and create a day and environment that reflects you as individuals, you as a couple and what you want from your future. Recite the vows that mean something to you, decorate with quirky references to you two, serve the food YOU want to eat, let your bridesmaid wear whatever they want, cut the cake or don’t even have a cake; DO YOU!
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